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[EdNader]

I have a 15 year old daughter who has been told by her teachers that she has "rights" equal to that of an adult. Now she has started acting like she does only she still uses a childs mind and values. My problem is this...every night she chats online with her friends who no doubt have been fed the same stuff from school (got to love public education). I would like to know if there is a method available that will save these chat sessions to a file so I may review after each session. I am a little afraid of what children can contemplate and carry out and I want to protect myself and the rest of the family. Please do not be alarmed as I do not believe she has evil plans in mind. I just look for an edge on the situation.

Thanks

Ed

[renegade600]

this (http://kids.getnetwise.org/tools/tool_result.php3?display_start=1&functionality_id_array%5B%5D=931542385.18341) is a list of software that will help you .

[enat66]

There are ways, many will cost you but many have free 30 day trials.

I myself, being 15 find that talking on the internet is an essential part of my social life. Have you talked with your daughter to say you are concerned? Before you start monitoring her you should decide weither or not you will punish her for saying naughty things/ talking about adult topics (both of which many teens do) or just use it to protect her from whatever you are afraid she will comtemplate.

I'd also like to state that if you tell her she is being monitored she most likely won't like it (because now she can't talk about her high school crushes and other things she doesn't want her parents to know.) But if you don't tell her and she becomes computer literate and finds out you are monitoring her she may become very very mad (depends on what kind of person she is). I'd also like to state that there are ways around the chat logs and if your daughter really tries, she may be able to figure out a way.

But I understand you wish only the best for your child and if you feel that you must monitor her chat to protect her, I support you.

Check out this similar topic:
http://www.cybertechhelp.com/forums/showthread.php?t=28719

[renegade600]

the previous message has some good points, in fact, they are great. You will have to decide whether or not to be surprise about what your daughter says and does. There may be some things about her life you really do not want to know. IMO, If you are going to monitor her, let her know about the possibility. It may cause some friction but at least she knows how far she can go with her friends online.

[restin256]

Read nineteen eighty-four.

[enat66]

Read nineteen eighty-four.I don't understand? What does that mean?

[renegade600]

I don't understand? What does that mean?

George Orwell's book 1984 about big brother watching everyone. check here (http://www.shire.net/big.brother/) .

[Baser-X]

I don't understand? What does that mean?

If you have never Read 1984 by George Orwell, you are truly missing out. It is a great book, but it is also a very scary book..... Learn all about it (http://www.online-literature.com/orwell/1984/).

[restin256]

Dear lord.. there's people in the world who haven't read that book? :o

[EdNader]

this (http://kids.getnetwise.org/tools/tool_result.php3?display_start=1&functionality_id_array%5B%5D=931542385.18341) is a list of software that will help you .


Thanks dan I'll look it over.

[EdNader]

There are ways, many will cost you but many have free 30 day trials.

I myself, being 15 find that talking on the internet is an essential part of my social life. Have you talked with your daughter to say you are concerned? Before you start monitoring her you should decide weither or not you will punish her for saying naughty things/ talking about adult topics (both of which many teens do) or just use it to protect her from whatever you are afraid she will comtemplate.

I'd also like to state that if you tell her she is being monitored she most likely won't like it (because now she can't talk about her high school crushes and other things she doesn't want her parents to know.) But if you don't tell her and she becomes computer literate and finds out you are monitoring her she may become very very mad (depends on what kind of person she is). I'd also like to state that there are ways around the chat logs and if your daughter really tries, she may be able to figure out a way.

But I understand you wish only the best for your child and if you feel that you must monitor her chat to protect her, I support you.

Check out this similar topic:
http://www.cybertechhelp.com/forums/showthread.php?t=28719

Thanks for your input. Being over 50 I shall be very careful about how and what I do. But, we have already looked at a notebook she left when she disappeared for a day and what we found was disturbing (not dangerous) so we will be concerned until she is 18 and while we are still responsible for her actions.

[EdNader]

Read nineteen eighty-four.


Yea Restin...have read 1984 and many other disturbing works. You, however, have not read her 50 page notebook describing things she and her friends have and want to do! So, I'd like help not criticism after all this is Cybertechhelp.

Thanks

[restin256]

Sure, whatever. Not like I've had any friends at all who've been through what she has, and only had her intentions worsenned.

Have a good one.