Personal Questions

[Vercades]

I'm just curious if it's ok to ask personal advice on this forum? I'm talking like relationship problems... and experiences? Is this normally frowned on? If it is.. let me know.. I'll not continue with this post.

[degsy]

It is not frowned upon but this is an open forum and some may not take your request as seriously as you mean and you could end up with some very offtopic posts or arguably offensive in your terms.

Just be ready for that if you do post personal topics ;)

[Vercades]

MMmmm I see.. On second though, I think it best left unsaid. Thanks Degsy.

Changing the subject, this isn't so much a personal thing butsomething I've been troubled with for quite sometime. All my life I've seen many people seemingly continue with their life and not stop they're tough and always on the go, it's like these people can easily process their problems and continue.

Ever since I graduated I've lost something that always drived me to excel or put forth effort. This happened because I realized it's up to me now what to do with my life, and during my few years out of school, I don't take opportunities placed before me and I have no sense of direction with my future. To put it simple, I fear my future is going to empy, and I feel like it's going to stay that way. I'm in a rut and I don't know how to get out. It's a terrible feeling, and hard to enjoy life when you feel this way on a daily basis. I don't know why I feel like I'm wasting my life everywhere I go, it just something ingrained in me.

[dammit]

dammit :D

[DELTREE]

dammit, I see you come from (pie country)? What kind of pies do you have?:surprised
I like pie!
Vercades,watch what you ask for.;)

[uripyores]

Ditto the above [@dammit]. :curse: :evil: :D

[dammit]

dammit, I see you come from (pie country)? What kind of pies do you have?:surprised
I like pie!
Vercades,watch what you ask for.;)

We have a vast selection of artery furring pies around these parts.
Probably the most popular are meat and potato... and steak.

I'm hungry now!! :disgust:

[DELTREE]

dammit, that meat and potato... and steak pie sounds good!
We here in the U.S.A. where I live don't have that kind of pie.
We have these pot pies it sounds like what you maybe talking about?
How about apple,cherry etc. :rotflmao:

[MishY]

Chicken & Vegetable Ponsonby Pies are great :D

[dammit]

Yep we have those too.... apple....blackcurrant......gooseberry

You say you don't have meat and tater pies in the US..they don't have 'em in the south of the UK either... it's a northern thing mostly. :)

[DELTREE]

I think I am going to look around now for some PIE!;)

[Spider]

Why is it English people like their fast food enclosed in a shell...

http://www.eng.umu.se/tt/proj1/Kidney.jpg

...and North Americans like theirs with open edges?

http://www.mcdonalds.dk/cms/res/mcdonalds/73643/19776/87169/23978/big_hamburger.jpg

I think yours makes more sense, ours drips all over the place.

[dammit]

Recipe (http://www.bbc.co.uk/lancashire/lifestyle/2003/03/18/meat_and_potato_pie.shtml) slurp.... http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v194/gedchris/5e8df66d.jpg

[uripyores]

I prefer the steak & kidley......oh no!.. :eek: ...we've been here before. :naughty:

[Spider]

All that pastry though...makes ya fat! (http://www.lolpictures.com/pictures/fatcat.jpg)

[dammit]

All that pastry though...makes ya fat! (http://www.lolpictures.com/pictures/fatcat.jpg)

Oi... fit as a butchers dog I am....

I'm just off out to the chippy for a pie now.. lol

[PurestLight]

This is really boring I expect, but apparently pastry was used (like in the making of pork pies) purely to protect the meat from burning while cooking for a long time. They would get the pie, discard the pastry and eat the contents. Much like a haggis or whatever :laugh: It makes sense to me, pastry is the pits as far as Im concerned :p

[dammit]

Wash your mouth out woman!!!

[PurestLight]

I cant do pastry at all - i get really bad indigestion so all that FAT must be very bad. Plus, who would eat a combination of fat flour and water yukkkkk !! We used to fix tears in wallpaper with a similar recipe :rotflmao:

[dammit]

Women are not big pie fans... my missus don't like em either.
You must be missing a "taste" gene somewhere along the line. :rotflmao:

You get tears in the wallpaper? How??? :dizzy:

[PurestLight]

You get tears in the wallpaper? How???

noooooooooooooo that was back when my sister used to pick it off in the grandparents house lolol gawd that caused some grief :rolleyes: but I can assure you Im not genetically modified in the taste dept :blush:

[dammit]

noooooooooooooo that was back when my sister used to pick it off in the grandparents house lolol
I was kinda hoping the answer might have included "sexual acrobatics" at some point. :evillaugh

[PurestLight]

I couldnt possibly comment :rotflmao: they came later ;) you DOS .......:p

[Tom]

And so...
Vercades, when you decided to start this thread, you most likely hesitated, perhaps concerned about what responses you might receive. You ran through a couple of scenarios, ie. dammit would post something rude perhaps, or Spider might make another attempt here at passing the Turing Test with an inane response. But I bet you never, ever forecast a discussion about pies. Everytime I anticipate the future, I get it wrong. Without fail. I choose instead to attend to today. If I adapt a posture of making the right decisions today, and learn what I can today, and not passing on opportunity today, then when i get to that future, It's today, and I already am doing the right thing. It will care for itself.

I'll test the theory. I make the statement, "Elvis died eating pies." Then I press the Submit Reply button.

[dammit]

I couldnt possibly comment :rotflmao: they came later ;) you DOS .......:p

Well the title of the thread is Personal Questions.... :p

[PurestLight]

Elvis died eating pies oh, no he didnt. :( Please dont perpetuate the pie theory. It makes me very sad :cry: He didnt live in our world, how could he?, he made the best of what he had

[DELTREE]

Jintan, What are you a pie hater?
And there has NOT been anything rude!

I like PIE!!:wave:

[PurestLight]

or Spider might make another attempt here at passing the Turing Test with an inane response. Spider doesnt make inane responses. Have you read his stuff on here?????

[dammit]

Now now children.... lol

I don't think Elvis had a pie problem... but a hamburger problem... and a peanut butter problem.. from what I have read.

If he had consumed healthy meat and tater pies he would probably still been wigglin those hips... ;)

[amnell71]

Ever since I graduated I've lost something that always drived me to excel or put forth effort. This happened because I realized it's up to me now what to do with my life, and during my few years out of school, I don't take opportunities placed before me and I have no sense of direction with my future. To put it simple, I fear my future is going to empy, and I feel like it's going to stay that way. I'm in a rut and I don't know how to get out. It's a terrible feeling, and hard to enjoy life when you feel this way on a daily basis. I don't know why I feel like I'm wasting my life everywhere I go, it just something ingrained in me.
Vercades, I'm not sure the answer to the question you seek. But I can say with all honesty that I know exactly how you feel. I am 33 and it seems like I go nowhere but backwards. The only advice I can offer is to keep your chin up, and to jump at the next opportunity that comes your way - see where it takes you and then do it all over again. Whatever you choose, I wish you the best of luck. I hope things turn around for you soon.

And, keep in mind, no matter how bad it is (or feels) - someone else has it far worse than you do.

[dammit]

Vercades, I'm not sure the answer to the question you seek. But I can say with all honesty that I know exactly how you feel. I am 33 and it seems like I go nowhere but backwards. The only advice I can offer is to keep your chin up, and to jump at the next opportunity that comes your way - see where it takes you and then do it all over again. Whatever you choose, I wish you the best of luck. I hope things turn around for you soon.

And, keep in mind, no matter how bad it is (or feels) - someone else has it far worse than you do.

Gee I never saw this... we went off on "pie mode" before it got edited.

Vercades... everyone goes through this sort of thing at one time or another... it will get better..
It always does
That's life... ups and downs... a rollercoaster ride..
It's the same for everyone...
some days you are the dog... some days you are the lamp post (or fire hydrant in your case :rotflmao: )
:wave:

[Vercades]

Well, what bothers me most is... that I've had more then two years to think about this and it just seems like nothing works out. Gah, thanks for the ear guys.... and the pie. :rotflmao:

[lufbra]

Vercades, whatever the question is, she ain't worth it, dump her there's plenty more fish in the sea. :p

Speaking of pies, my brother arrived here from the UK for a vacation, I asked him to bringover some Fray bentos steak 'n kidney pies, the darn customs confiscated 'em. :(

[dammit]

Vercades, whatever the question is, she ain't worth it, dump her there's plenty more fish in the sea. :p

Speaking of pies, my brother arrived here from the UK for a vacation, I asked him to bringover some Fray bentos steak 'n kidney pies, the darn customs confiscated 'em. :(

Wise move.... they are full of crap.

[DELTREE]

I don't take opportunities placed before me and I have no sense of direction with my future. To put it simple, I fear my future is going to empy, and I feel like it's going to stay that way. I'm in a rut and I don't know how to get out. It's a terrible feeling, and hard to enjoy life when you feel this way on a daily basis. I don't know why I feel like I'm wasting my life everywhere.

1. If that babe is messing with your head, DUMP Her!
2. Have you ever thought about going in the MARINES or ARMY? If you are
as good as you think you are; become an OFFICER.
3.Become a POLICE OFFICER with your back ground and educ..... you may fall in to a GOOD job?
Just some ideas?

dammit,Speaking of pies, my brother arrived here from the UK for a vacation, I asked him to bringover some Fray bentos steak 'n kidney pies, the darn customs confiscated 'em. :(
I see they like pie also!!
"PIE IS A GOOD THING"!!!;)

[dammit]

Fray Bentos pies are full of crap/..... the guy i buy mine off has been bakin' em since 1952....
good ingredients..... good guy.... good pies.....
Fray Bentos pies I must admit are OK...at least the taste... but I dare not do a search on the ingredients.... as I have eaten them (don't bother posting search results) lol :eek:

[Vercades]

Well the girl is part of the problem... she was the first one I got dangerously close. Didn't develop into a full blown relationship, although a part of me still wishes that atleast happened. But what happened was, I told her that I was over her (even though I was no where near over her) Just to be out of her hair and make it easier on her, I noticed she was being annoyed by me, plus so many people said it was a fling, (parents)

Telling her I was over her just for her sake was probably the worst feeling I had ever felt. Just having something remind me of her can start an uproar of unstable feelings. I've actually asked help on this before because it started to affect my health, I seemed obsessed but the real thing was I was contemplating how to finish this correctly. Well, there was a time limit and not everything was said before it all ended. So the recoiling affect left me in a hopeless daze for the last 2 years. Only thing I knew what to do was look to the net. Lol, tryed family, tryed friends, tryed talking to professionals, tryed it all.

It's been a loooooooong down period of my life. I still don't know why I feel like I'm wasting my life everywhere I go and everything I do, it always plays like a rerun in my head. I don't know if I really should continue talking about this, I'm afraid it'll bother people.

[dammit]

How old are you bud?
If you dont want to stick it in public forums.... pm me ;)

[DELTREE]

You must be a young man?
I told her that I was over her (even though I was no where near over her) Just to be out of her hair and make it easier on her.
Your problem is, you where not true to youself. Just try to set down with her and have a nice talk with her.You can't LOVE someone not unless they love you.


Just to be out of her hair and make it easier on her.
hopeless daze for the last 2 years.
Two years you have been brokenup? Look to the MARINES for they are looking for a few GOOD MEN! GET OVER HER MY FRIEND before you find youeself in the nut house!!;)

Have you had any pie lately?

[uripyores]

The thing is, when this happens to you when you are young, it can be devastating. It happens to most people sometime in their life if they are honest about it....unless they are really lucky. It will take time to get over it completely, but the best answer, I think, is to find other friends. Easy to say, I know, but things will get better, they always do.
Good luck.

Go easy on the pies. :wave:

[Spider]

things will get better, they always do.
Uh huh.

Once you get out "the other side" your wiser and a little more aged. It's how we all learn.

I have a credo on that..."you gotta burn to learn".

[JJae]

maybe you could turn to religion?
I hear God has a lot to offer.

or maybe it's a good idea to keep church and forum seperate.

-JJae

[nyaxea]

Hi Vercades
Reading yr post..went years back...we all experienced it ..few times in our life..time will heal everything,and perhaps it will leave a sweet memory
You are a very young person,at an age that relationships tend to blow out of proportions,and when they go sour,they do hurt...but remember life carries on,and you never know what is behind the corner...
Pull yrself together,and look at the bright side of life...dont let it disrupt yr education,set yr goal and go for it,this is more important at that stage,than love life..mistakes you may make now will affect yr future
At yr age,I went thru a similar turmoil,took me apx 18months to get over it,,dropped out of college,but carried on after few months,graduated,(aircraft engineer)and eventually got a job as a flight engineer,and flew for the last 30 years,and believe me ,life is indeed full of suprises
Well let bygones be bygones,life is ahead of you..make sure you are well equipped to enjoy the fruits..they wont come to you,YOU got to go out and harvest them
You get over it..we all do
Feel free to pm ......

[Snurfen]

So ther you go Jere, join the god squad, go to Iraq or eat pies. Or perhaps all three.

Following on from nyaxea's post, yes, you will feel rock bottom from time to time, yes you will get the stuffing knocked out of you with relationships (especially the first big one).

Keep on plugging away, you will get there sooner than you think. The first step to getting over a big hit like this is (and I know it's a really hackneyed cliche) to "pull yourself together". One morning, you'll wake up and think "I've had enough of this sh*t". Thats the point where you square your shoulders and get out there and do something positive. It doesn't have to be a grand gesture, a very very small positive action, like responding to a letter or just tidying up your study can be enough to get that feel good factor again.

Like dammit said, PM any of us if you feel that low and want a sympathetic ear.

and eat some pies (Clarke's beef and onion are particularly scrumptious). Try dipping chips (thats french fries for men, not those flat things like dorritos) in them. Now your talking......

[DELTREE]

Here is a GOOD link, I found it on this web site.:thumbsup:
http://www.shoppinglouisiana.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=CTGY&Store_Code=S&Category_Code=10100

[Tom]

The nature of the beast, and what to do about It. (http://www.way2hope.org/codependency-test-definition.htm)

[Vercades]

The nature of the beast, and what to do about It. (http://www.way2hope.org/codependency-test-definition.htm)

Thanks for the link Jintan. was interesting but, doesn't apply to me. I'm not codependent, I'm just in a rut. And a touch too misanthropic, I hardly hold on to people emotionally. I'm actually a loner at heart.

Found this interesting fact about the human mind.

http://www.researchmatters.harvard.edu/story.php?article_id=335

[Spider]

Why not volunteer at a soup kitchen or food bank.

They always need the help and you'll get out and experience helping people that are in
perhaps a more dire type of life and mind state. Try and uplift them, you may hear yourself
give some advice you may very well use yourself.

Besides, it always feels good to assist people who may not have the luxuries the rest of us
take for granted.

[Tom]

A misanthropic (had to google that one) loner with 974 posts on a public forum that provides assistance to others. I 100%+ agree with Mr. Spider. When I find myself in a personal quandry, I usually am also pretty self-absorbed at the time. I have found that doing for others that need doing for not only brings about a change in direction, but in the doing, I find the answers to my questions. Illogical? You bet! Finest kind.

[dammit]

A misanthropic (had to google that one)
Me too..... :dizzy: